“Asshole” is a term that most men (and people…) want to avoid like the plague.
There are just a host of negative connotations that come with it, and let’s face it,
they are sometimes true.
But work and relationship contexts aside, the worst part of the term “asshole” is
the way that women use it to describe a man that takes charge and isn’t afraid to
offend others with his opinions. It’s almost as if assertive is interchangeable with
asshole at times, and it’s a shame.
But I’m here to tell you that there are zero absolutely differences between being
assertive and an asshole, and that you should never be afraid to be assertive and
have your opinion heard.
I’ve met far too many men that simply don’t like confrontation or to rock the
boat – that’s a dangerous slippery slope because it can be so gradual that you
eventually find yourself mute in the relationship.
Wait, since when is it being an asshole to just say what’s on your mind, or even
what your preferences might be?
Assholes prod and provoke to make a point, which are often punctuated by
emotional outbursts and accusations. Women have no issues responding to logic,
so if you approach them on that level in an assertive manner, you will have their
attention, respect, and never be called an asshole.
Assholes also tend to make points that aren’t related to the actual point, which is
mostly a matter of twisting the knife that they can sometimes wield.

Not pleasant.
Tell me what you think women like: a passive man who bends to her every
whim and is essentially whipped… or a strong man that isn’t a doormat, who
forces them to respect them, can take charge when necessary, and can be equals
with them. Hint: it’s not the first one.
So embrace assertiveness, because it is easy to do so without being a raging
asshole.